Undercover Report: 9 Tips for Dealing with Customers Who Won’t Leave

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It’s a Catch 22: you provide great service at your restaurant, so guests get comfortable – too comfortable. What can you do? Try these 9 tips for dealing with customers who stay too long, a 5-step plan for serious stallers, and 1 secret used by NYC restaurants.

Before Dealing with Customers…Understand Them First

Most guests simply want to enjoy their meal. Therefore, tactics used when dealing with customers overstaying their welcome should be subtle. You never want guests to feel rushed.

Undercover Report: 9 Tips for Dealing with Customers Who Linger

On Thanksgiving Eve, we went undercover at one of Detroit’s most popular restaurants. Our mission? To take our sweet time – and observe the restaurant’s tactics for dealing with customers who stay too long. The main takeaway was this:

Don’t wait until the meal is over to start dealing with customers who won’t leave! Be proactive. Move things along throughout the entire dining experience.

1) Never Say “It’s Busy”

Our party of 4 had a 6pm reservation. We arrived at 5:45 and were invited to the bar. Right at 6pm, the hostess asked that we take our drinks to the table and said: “We’ll bring your tab over, no worries. I just want to keep your reservation for you!”

This was a smart way of dealing with customers – proactively. The hostess alerted us it was a busy night without saying it directly. She framed it in a customer-focused way: it was all about ensuring we didn’t lose our reservation.

Customers don’t want to hear “it’s busy tonight.” That’s all about YOU.

2) Set the Pace

Within minutes of being seated, our server inquired if we’d like more drinks or any appetizers. He was polite and conversational…giving us recommendations. Just like the hostess, he set a tone and pace for our meal that was decidedly brisk yet focused on our needs.

3) Leave Behind a Menu

Sometimes, dealing with customers who take too long can be as simple as leaving a menu behind. If table space is an issue, consider space-saving touchscreen tablet menus.

This restaurant put everything on one menu: cocktails, beer, apps, entrees, and desserts. Wine was on a separate menu. After taking our orders, the server left one of each menu: “I’ll leave these at the table in case you’d like to browse.”

Not only did we order cocktails mid-meal (boosting the check average), but we browsed the desserts and were ready to order at meal’s end.

Leaving a menu is a way of proactively dealing with customers who may take too long deciding which dessert or after-dinner drink to order.

4) Hot and Fresh

The apps arrived fast – within 7 minutes of ordering. They were hot, fresh, and delicious. Entrees came out in 12minutes. The secret to dealing with customers who loiter might be a lean menu: This menu had 7 apps, 9 main courses, 5-6 side dishes, and 5 desserts. The kitchen can be your unsung hero in dealing with customers who take their time by shaving off minutes between courses.

5) Oh, Hello There Hostess

Once during the meal, the hostess walked through the dining area with an iPad. She smiled if you made eye contact. But it was clear: She was monitoring where each table was at in their meal. No one seemed offended.

6) No Easy Chairs

The chairs were wooden. They weren’t uncomfortable. Yet, the seating didn’t make you want to stick around for hours. Dealing with customers who get too cozy? Try ditching plush, sofa-like seating in favor of wooden or metal seats.

7) Water Refills

After dessert, the server began filling our water more frequently. It was a subtle reminder that he was taking care of us – even though we had finished. He also knew when to “make the ask” if we were ready for the check…

8) Parting Words

Most patrons know “Can I get you anything else?” is code for “are you wrapping up?” This server used a smart variation: “Could I get you any other desserts?”

Who can answer “yes” without feeling like a glutton? This was an ingenious way of dealing with customers who linger.

Then, 5 minutes later he came back with the “can I get you anything else?” line.

9) The Check and Chat

The server placed the bill on the table and asked another brilliant question: “So which dessert was your favorite?”

While we answered, one of us glanced at the bill and set out a credit card. The server picked it up and said “I’ll be back with this quickly for you.”

He made it seem like he was doing us a favor by being fast! Plus, by chatting with us, he didn’t have to come back for the check – and he made us feel special.

Our visit came to 1 hour and 35 minutes. But what if we had decided to stay longer?

5 Steps for Dealing with Customers Glued to Their Seats

1) “Can I Get You Anything Else”?

Yes, you know this line for dealing with customers who won’t budge. Don’t be afraid to use it more than once.

2) Say Good Night (and Goodbye)

If you’ve finally gotten the party to pay for their meal, say goodbye.

Be gracious and kind. Smile. But end with a clear “good night” or “good bye.” Do this while holding the check holder for a little dramatic emphasis.

“It was such a pleasure serving you tonight. I hope to see you again soon. Good night!”

Then, set the check holder down. Walk away. The more assertive you can be when dealing with customers at this point, the better. Your goal is to avoid asking them to leave.

3) Send in the Busser

Still dealing with customers stuck at the table? Send in a busser (or another waiter) to clear the table – but not you. This is a visual cue that things are wrapping up.

Instruct the busser to pick up the check and ask “may I take this?” If guests haven’t left their tip, the busser can say “I’ll be back, no problem.”

Guests should finally get the hint. If they’re annoyed? Their irritation is directed at the busser – not the server who took care of them the entire night. It’s a little good cop/bad cop strategy for dealing with customers in linger mode.

4) Offer an Incentive

Uh oh. Now, dealing with customers who won’t leave is reaching a crisis mode.

You’ve got a party of 8 who’s been waiting 20 minutes for that table.

So, invite guests to the bar! Be upfront yet warm:

“I noticed you’re still enjoying yourselves! Could I invite you to the bar? I’ve put a $10 tab at the bar for you since I know this is a bit inconvenient.”

5) Offer an Even Bigger Incentive – and Ask for Help

If your bar area is slammed, too? Offer a gift card and invite them back. When dealing with customers who have stayed too long, ask for their help:

“Could I ask you to help me? There is a group of 8 waiting for your table. I know this is so inconvenient for you, so I’d like to give you a gift card to show my appreciation.”

This is critical when dealing with customers who won’t go. Never ask them to leave without a conciliatory gesture. It can ruin the chances of them every returning. Plus, you’re NOT requesting that they leave – you’re asking for their help in seating another party.

*Use step 5 only when absolutely necessary. Set up protocol for dealing with customers at this point. Require a manager’s permission before initiating this step.

How Some NYC Restaurants are Dealing with Customers Who Linger…in Advance

Do you confirm reservations with an email or a phone call? Use this new tactic for proactively dealing with customers who won’t leave.

Inform guests of the reservation start – and end – time.

This new tactic for dealing with customers who move slowly is becoming common in big cities. When a guest books a reservation on OpenTable or through email, many restaurants create short and sweet boilerplate language that includes reservation length. Here are 2 examples from NYC restaurants:

We look forward to seeing you! Your reservation has been held for Friday, December 1st from 7:00 until 8:30pm.

Here at ____ Restaurant, our goal is treating you to a relaxing, indulgent evening with us. To ensure you’re seated promptly – and the guests dining after you as well – we kindly ask that you join us for an hour and a half. We can’t wait to see you!

If you try this tactic for dealing with customers who may stick around, be sure servers don’t rush guests. This actual Yelp review reveals why:

The only negative was…we were clearly and strongly “encouraged” to leave after 75 minutes… not so nice. If they can grant you the 1.5 hours promised in the reservation confirmation, it’s a very nice dinner experience.

When dealing with customers who are reluctant to end their dining experience, it’s all about having a strategy in place. Train your team using these tips for dealing with customers. Above all, be proactive on busy nights. Set a consistently brisk pace that starts with the hostess – and ends with satisfied guests who never once felt rushed.

Nov 29, 2017


  1. dumbocrat on December 1, 2013 at 6:29 am

    i just bought a meal, i rented that table for as long as i want it. if it isnt past closing time, and you force me out, i’ll never be back.

    • David on May 22, 2015 at 4:24 am

      If thats your attitude most restaurants won’t want you back!

    • Brainiac3397 on February 22, 2016 at 8:33 am

      You rented the table for the duration of your meal. Once you’re done eating, it’s over. You don’t need a table to socialize or rest.

      • Gib an on January 4, 2020 at 8:44 pm

        what if customers stay for 1-5 hours for just a small amount of bill.

    • Dick on July 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

      Someone’s a special snowflake who feels entitled

    • Joe on July 24, 2017 at 6:35 pm

      I’m sure you’re every servers dream. I bet you rent that table with a 10% tip as well.

      • Boo on March 2, 2019 at 9:46 am

        Restaurants are for people to enjoy food. Not sit there for as long as you please and act like an entitled fool. It’s super unfair on customers that need to wait for an idiot like you to leave just because you feel entitled. Every customer have equal right to get their table on time and enjoy the food. Maybe you should just eat at home.

  2. Ayerst on March 26, 2016 at 2:25 am

    I was a patron in a restaurant who was rushed out because of a reservation. I would’ve understood if the place was busting at the seams but it was almost completely empty. Apparently the one table they chose to seat me and my companion at happened to be reserved. Halfway through our meal we were asked if we wanted to box it up, we ignored that and kept eating. This progressed into our server yelling at us to please leave after serving up the bill. No, we were not there six hours, maybe over an hour and a half, and we fully intended on drinks and dessert which were never even offered up. We would’ve happily moved to another table, considering there were literally twenty empty ones to choose from, instead we were rudely kicked out. Once you experience something like that, you *never* return to that establishment.

  3. Mark on July 23, 2017 at 11:59 am

    I can speak from the business side being the owner of a very busy small breakfast cafe. While we never want to be rude or jeopardize losing a customer, people should understand its a delicate situation. On the one side we want you tng?o enjoy your meal and experience in our cafe. Trust me, it is our biggest concern. On the other hand as a small cafe, we depend on turnover. Not just us as a business but also the wait staff who depend on tips. For breakfast an hour is easily enough time to enjoy a meal and yet we regularly have people who sit 2, 3 and yes 4 or more hours after finishing their meal.

    We try all the polite things to try and give a hint, but these folks usually ignore any attempts we make at being subtle.
    I found this site and others looking for a possible solution to this problem so I ask:

    What does a business do? How long is long enough or too long?

    And finally, there is a point where we really ARE better off that these customers don’t come in when you consider we could have turned that table 2 or more times extra. This is something we have to consider.

    • Gib an on January 4, 2020 at 8:57 pm

      ah this also my problem sir and these customers offen comes back the worst they took 3 tabkes and orders for 5 tea which is 150 pesos Philippine money and stays fir 3-5 hours having their meeting, my resto became their office and when askd if they wanted to order something just they add order 1 dish costing 70 pesos for another hour of stay. their friends come one at a time, others irde for tea but some don’t. Do this customers deserve customers right? is their any kaw charge for them?

  4. Ray on October 9, 2017 at 10:29 pm

    If you ask customers to leave …they will and they won’t come back. Do it often enough and you won’t have a problem as you won’t have customers.

  5. steve on November 7, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    I used to just have every crude guy on the staff pass by the table and fart. Yes crude, not saying that it worked. But it definitely made us feel better about the situation 😉

  6. Ali Newaz Sunny on December 28, 2017 at 10:09 am

    Okay…i must say those tips might be very effective. Customers are the king and you should care about them. Make sure your customer gets comfortable and enjoy quality time there. If you can make them comfortable they would visit you more often for sure.

    • AB on December 28, 2018 at 10:09 pm

      The ones you take care of are not the ones to take advantage of you. Those who can not understand the table needs to be turned for others do not care if you go bust. The last few tips are the worst advise. Why reward customers who do not get the hint that the business has other customers who would like to enjoy the experience too? Why reward the entitled customer?

      • wfoody on January 2, 2019 at 10:47 am

        One of the reasons you would reward this type of customer is they clearly enjoy your establishment and are having a great time. This type of customer when rewarded may tell others of the great experience they had. The opposite is also true, treating them rude could cause a customer to speak negatively about your establishment. We like to always put our best foot forward when dealing with customers.

  7. Pourman on January 12, 2018 at 5:04 pm

    Yeah, it’s all about the customer. LOL. Not really. It’s about being in business and making business. Making quality business decisions. And the fact is, if you were there taking up a table for entirely too long to the point where you’re costing me money, time to get out. Fine with me if you don’t come back. I can think of several business owners including one close to me who is rich in Italian descent. He has no problem kicking people out and telling them to never come back. And he is slammed every single day. Oh…. and you want to rent the table and stay there as long as you like? No problem. Price just went up on rent.

  8. cynthia Beckwith on June 7, 2019 at 10:33 am

    My problem is this: We have live jazz on our outdoor patio every Thursday night. I have a customer who demands a certain table (right in front of the band) every week (says he has a standing reservation), orders 1 drink each for himself and his wife, doesn’t order any food at all and never leaves a tip. He stays from the time we open the patio at 6pm until we close at 10pm. Demands that we keep his water carafe refreshed, is rude to the servers (walks past the 3 that were standing together talking about their tables and said “get out there and do your jobs, don’t stand here talking!” This man is SO frustrating and we have taken baby steps around him. I say it’s time to bar him from the establishment!

    • Mary on November 17, 2019 at 7:36 am

      Oh my! That’s a nightmare! We have certain people who demand certain tables but at least they eat. And sometimes I make sure that table is not available just to show them that I am in control. I would Bab this person for sure and tell them why

  9. Ashley Johnson on August 16, 2019 at 1:00 pm

    I liked that you said that one thing to consider when you own a restaurant is to try to make the experiences of your guests a special one by frequently asking if they need more drinks or appetizers of any kind. I have been thinking about starting my own restaurant business but I have been worried about not being able to find loyal customers. I will be sure to train my waiters and waitresses to be friendly and as helpful as possible when serving a guest in order to ensure that customers will have a good experience.

  10. Derek McDoogle on August 20, 2019 at 10:47 am

    I totally agree with you when you said that most guests simply want to enjoy their meal when they go to a restaurant. My wife and I would like to celebrate our anniversary by having a nice dinner. thanks for sharing your article, it helped me realize to get o the restaurant on time for the reservation.

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